#Stickysubjects - 25, Nigerian & Single!!

So I'm pretty sure it's not just my Nigerians but all my African's that can relate to my plight today!

In just a few short weeks I will be turning 26, and much to the despair of my family, I'm entering the latter part of my 20's single, and without a child; and quite frankly I couldn't care less. According to my Dad I'm a 25, lesbian, recluse, who has commitment issues and problems with authority (authority in his book being, Men) and maybe even problems conceiving. This could be further from the truth. I'm straight for one, (like I love men) simply enjoy my own company, (a little bit too much, I can't lie) have no problems committing to a relationship (in fact I may even OVERcommit, (but that's a whole other issue)) and as for problems conceiving, well it's not like I've been trying to get pregnant so I will firmly deny that too. All it is, is that I'm simply not ready.

Now I know what you're gonna say; you're never really ready to have a child blah blah blah, and I get that, I do. So why am I 'Not ready' you ask? Well honestly it's a number of things. But one of the main reason undeniable reason is this.

I haven't met another human being that I can stand being around for long enough to envision forever. I just haven't yet.

Now you might be reading this thinking maybe my dad is right but i'll break it down.

Now I'm not looking for perfect or a fairytale. But I am looking for right and comfortable and safe and relaxed and passionate. So not too much to ask for right?

I have honestly seen both sides of the coin when it comes to relationships. I have witnessed what time, a foundation of friendship and love can produce, on the flip side I have seen what rushing, desperation and a little bit of loneliness can do to people. I am not trying to be the latter.

And I know that life is about taking risks and taking chances but, mate love and a lifetime with someone are not things I'm willing to jump head first into. I don't see the point in rushing all guns blazing wearing a stamp on my head that says "needs to marry before I turn 30"!

So dad, mum, aunts and uncles (low key cousins) stop stressing out your 25+ daughter, nieces, sisters and girl cousins. We don't need it! Plus not EVERYONE is destined for marriage... but that's for another #StickySubject.

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